16 years ago I said I do to my husband. And yes it seems like every bit of 16 years. We have been through a WHOLE lot. We’ve each suffered the loss of a parent, I lost a job and started a business, we’ve had babies, been through a house fire and went through a period of not speaking to each other which was really rough! All of this has taught me that my husband is the real deal. He either LOVES me or is just too stubborn to leave me. I am hoping for the 1st option of LOVE. We learned to love each other through all of this because looking back I know we had no idea of what real love was. When I look at my husband and the man he is, I gotta say Thank you Fred for all of your support and letting me be the woman I have grown into. I know that I would not be the mom or wife I am if I was married to anyone else. This leads me to my next point. August is National Romance month!
And when I found out that, YES, there’s such a thing as National Romance Month and it’s NOT February. It’s actually oriented around Romance Awareness day on August 14th, Romance Awareness month was created by Eileen Buchheim to encourage couples to give attention to their relationship at all times of the year. Buchheim chose August 14th as Romance Awareness day because it falls six months after/before Valentine’s day.
If you’re looking to celebrate National Romance I’d suggest, first, figuring out your partner’s love language. If you don’t know what the 4 Love Languages are, let me explain them as simply as I can, and they are:
- Act of service.
- Physical Touch.
- Words of Affirmation.
- Quality Time.
- Receiving Gifts.
Act of Service:
Acts of Service are a type of love language in which a person feels loved through the actions, help, and support shown by their partner.
For example, accepting assistance to help with household chores, taking care of children, providing assistance at work, or offering assistance before being asked.
Example of Love Language Act of Service:
- Take the initiative to help with homework
- Provide assistance at work
- Drive home
- Provide unsolicited assistance
- Caring for a sick partner
- Playing your partner’s favorite song while traveling in the car
- Cooking your partner’s or loved one’s favorite food
- Remind your partner of something he almost forgot
Acts of Service are a type of love language in which a person feels loved through the actions, help, and support of loved ones.
For example, accepting assistance or initiatives to help with household chores, taking care of children, providing assistance at work, or offering assistance before being asked.
2. Physical Touch
Physical Touch or physical touch is a type of love language that is felt by someone through physical contact. The affection that appears here is not something negative, but rather a manifestation of affection and sincerity given by someone.
Example of Love Language Physical Touch:
- hug
- holding hands
- shoulder rubs
- Head rub
- Cuddling on the sofa
3. Words of Affirmation
Love receiving compliments and other positive words? It could be that your type of love language is words of affirmation! People whose love language is Words of Affirmation may feel very appreciated and loved when someone gives positive words such as support, motivation, and praise.
Example of Love Language Words of Affirmation:
- Thank-you note
- Words of motivation
- Compliments or sweet words
4. Quality Time
Quality time is the last type of love language. Someone with this love language feels loved when attention is given in the form of togetherness, such as doing activities together or just sitting side by side.
Example of Love Language Quality Time:
- Don’t play with gadgets when you’re together
- Vacation together
- Deep talks
- Watch a movie together
5. Receiving Gifts
Receiving Gifts is a type of love language in which a person feels loved by giving gifts. This gift doesn’t have to be expensive, but it can be something with a special meaning or a pleasant surprise.
Example of Love Language Receiving Gifts:
- Deliver unexpected surprises
- Buy gifts that are quite personal. For example, these gifts remind loved ones of what they like or moments of togetherness.
- Give greeting cards
How to find out your partner’s love language
Knowing and understanding the type of love language of the person you care about is important so you can express sincere feelings of affection and love for that person.
There are several ways you can find out someone’s love language. Reporting from various existing sources, here are ways you can apply to find out the type of someone’s love language.
1. Watch how those you care about express their affection
The first way to know someone’s love language is to pay attention to how they show concern for you.
You can easily see this through the actions or words they give to express their affection for you. For example, do they often give gifts, compliment you, or enjoy spending time alone with you.
2. Listen to the language your partner speaks
Couples may express their love language indirectly through the language they use. If they often say “I miss you” or “I like being with you,” that could be a clue about their love language.
3. Observe how your partner responds
Everyone has a different style of expressing love, and the way your partner responds to your actions can also be a clue about their love language. For example, if your partner is very happy when you give them a gift, that could be a clue that their love language is gift acceptance.
4. Ask directly
The easiest way to find out someone’s love language is to ask them directly. Ask him what would make him happy, feel loved, and feel happy if someone did that. Ask how He wants to be treated.
With open and honest communication, the existing relationship will run well and be healthy.
Next Step.
Go and enjoy your partner and learning new ways to show love and appreciation. Visit our Facebook group and share what and how you’ll be achkowleging this day.