As a woman and mother of a teen and preteen, having a positive attitude is the most important thing right now. BUT, that’s not always an easy decision. If I didn’t have kids I don’t think I’d worry so much about it either. My job and duty as a parent is to instill in my kids that they try and remain positive and not allow anyone to knock them off their square. But here are a few questions you can use to guide them on a path to change their mindset.
Do you want to improve your self-esteem? Do you have a hard time feeling positive about yourself? You’re not alone kiddo. It’s often recommended that we try positive affirmations because they may be helpful no matter what your age, but the number one rule is: you must say these affirmations out loud. Whether you’re standing in the bathroom looking in the mirror, or laying in bed scrolling on your phone, saying these affirmations aloud gives them an opportunity to work and help influence your subconscious.
The first step is to find out what type of affirmation works best for you – there are many different types that can be used at any given moment. Some examples include: “I am always loved,” “I deserve success,” or “my life has meaning.”
Choose one or two affirmations that resonate with your personal values and use them regularly as reminders of who you are and what’s possible. Let me know how these work for you!!
I embrace my flaws because I know that nobody is perfect.
You have to love yourself. You have to embrace who you are and realize your flaws are part of you. You will be loved and admired by others. Most people do not see the flaws you see in yourself.
I don’t want to look like anyone but myself.
You are beautiful and radiant. You look amazing and you are perfect just the way you are. You want to look like you because no one else does. This makes you unique and different, beautiful in your own way that no one else can emulate.
I love myself deeply and completely.
When you love yourself others will love you, too. Other people will see that love shining through. Loving yourself is a key to success. Once you love yourself completely you will find that you will attract other people, who will boost your self esteem as you boost theirs. You will attract success!
Failure is great feedback.
There is a book called Fail Your Way to Success. It is an amazing book that will teach you that the road to success is littered with failure and those who succeed are the ones who kept getting back up, learned from past mistakes, and kept going. You can and will succeed, just keep getting up and keep moving forward.
If I can believe it, I can achieve it.
What the mind can see, it can achieve as long as you believe. Start with a dream, turn your dream into a goal, make a plan to get to your goal, execute the plan, revise the plan as you go. Achieve your goals. Realize your dreams.
The future is good, and I look toward it with hope and happiness.
The future will be amazing and you will be a reason why it is! Your future looks bright and you can make it look brighter by focusing on making you a better person. Read the affirmation above and continue to look forward. Your today will shape tomorrow. Make sure you are doing the little actions today that will make big changes in your future.
I follow my dreams no matter what.
Follow your dreams! Never give up on them – or you. Make your dreams a goal. Make a plan to reach your goal. Never give up and don’t let anything or anyone get in your way or slow you down. You will get everything you dream of as long as you never, ever, give up
I only compare myself to me.
I am the only person I have to be better than. I am the only person I have to beat. As long as you only compare yourself to you, you are the only one in the race. You do not have to look like someone else or act like someone else to be successful. You are the best you can be today, and tomorrow you will be even better.
I am not trying to fit in because I was born to stand out!
Be yourself, do not try to fit into a box to be a part of a group. Stand out and the group will want to be with you. Be yourself and be great at being you. You will find that the more you are yourself the more you will not care about fitting in. You will also find that you are the “in crowd” 🙂 You are the one others look up to. Be different and embrace who you are.
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.
You are beautiful. Beauty comes from the inside. Make-up and clothes only represent what society thinks is pretty, but true beauty comes from the inside. What you feel and how you act is what determines your beauty. How you treat others and the things you say to others, is what truly makes you beautiful.
It is okay to say no because those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter.
Saying no is your right. It’s ok to say, “no I don’t want to do that” or “no, I am busy right now.” Take time for yourself. Be yourself, do not let anyone change who you are or your core values. Be who you are and say what you feel because those around you who truly matter want you to be yourself, and those who mind when you say no really don’t matter in the larger scheme of life.
The mistakes I made yesterday are creating the person I’ll be tomorrow.
You are the sum of your actions. Continue to make mistakes because this is how we learn and grow. If you want to succeed, learn from your mistakes and improve who you are. Continue to learn and grow and you will become the person you want to be.
I press on because I believe in my path.
Figure out what your dreams are. Figure out who you want to be in life. Make a plan to get there. Keep going and reminding yourself along the way why you are doing this. Believe in your path, set goals, obtain them and set new ones. No matter what, don’t give up.
I learn from my challenges and always find ways to overcome them.
Challenges, like failures, will come your way. Face each challenge with assertiveness and the belief that you will overcome it. You have beaten so many challenges in your life already, you will beat this, too. Learn from each challenge and take that information forward with you as you face new challenges.
You’ve got this. You are a winner! You will overcome each obstacle and take the lesson from it to become a better person.
Saying these affirmations everyday will help you to improve your mindset. This mindset will help you to achieve greatness no matter what situation you find yourself in. Remember, you were born to do great things. You have to continue to make the choices everyday that will shape your future.