Some nights, after the kids are finally in bed and the house is quiet, I find myself on Instagram scrolling
endless reels of women crushing it—launching their dream businesses, traveling the world with their spouses, posting six-figure wins, and glowing family vacations.
I’ll be honest: sometimes it hits me hard. Am I doing enough? Am I falling behind?
I want to be her—the one who’s figured it all out. I want to be the wife who’s fully present, the mom who’s always available, the entrepreneur who’s scaling without breaking a sweat.
But more often than not, I feel like I’m barely holding it together.
And that’s when FOMO creeps in. Not just fear of missing out on opportunities but fear of missing out… on us
The Hidden Cost of Chasing Dreams
When I decided to launch Dinner With the Wife, I was on fire and l still am. This is a dream that matters deeply to me. But I wasn’t ready for how the pressure of building a business would affect my marriage.
Suddenly, our conversations turned into planning meetings. Date nights got postponed because “I just need to finish this one thing.” I was staring at my phone in bed—answering emails, tweaking offers—while he was rolling over, already asleep.
I was giving my business the best of me, and giving him the leftovers.
That’s not the legacy I’m building for my kids and it’s definitely not the marriage I want.
What My Kids Are Watching
I started thinking about what my kids were seeing.
A mom who’s always busy?
A woman who chases big dreams but forgets the people closest to her?
Or are they seeing a mom who sets boundaries, and shows up for her husband even when the to-do list is screaming at her? I want them to see both.
I want them to know it’s possible to be ambitious and deeply connected in marriage.
That’s the kind of example I want to set. But that kind of life doesn’t happen by accident.
How We’re Fighting for Us
We’re still figuring this out, but here’s what’s working for us right now:
1. We Set Boundaries
There are hours when I’m working and hours when I’m not. And when I’m not working, I’m not thinking about working (okay, I’m trying).
Phones go away at dinner. No laptops after a certain time.
2. We Prioritize Time Together (Even When It’s Not Fancy)
Sometimes it’s a planned date night. Sometimes it’s sitting on the couch and watching a show we both love…But it’s intentional.
3. We Talk About What’s Hard
I told him about my FOMO. I told him I feel torn between showing up for my business and showing up for him. That conversation changed everything.
Fred didn’t need me to be perfect, He just needed me to be honest.
4. We Model Rest for Our Kids
If all they see is hustle, they’ll think that’s the only way.
But if they see me choosing family time over another email, or rest over another post, they’ll know there’s more to life than chasing success.
The Legacy I’m Building
If You’re Feeling This Too…
I don’t have this all figured out, but here’s what I know:
- I want a marriage that feels alive and thriving.
- I want to raise kids who know love, connection, and ambition can co-exist.
- And I want to build a business that helps other couples reconnect—because I’m living it too.
I want you to know that you’re not alone. Marriage in the middle of entrepreneurship, parenting, and chasing dreams is hard. BUT it’s also worth fighting for.
➡️ What’s one small thing you can do today to show up for your marriage?
Share it with me in the comments—I’m cheering for you.
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P.S. You’ve got this. We’ve got this.
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