Why I’m Giving Away a Dinner With the Wife Box for Fred’s Birthday (Even Though It’s Not His Kind of Thing)

Fred’s birthday is this week, and while he’s not the type to want a big fuss—or to sit through a curated date night box—this year, I’m doing something different.

I’m giving you the gift.

I’m giving away a Dinner With the Wife subscription box, not because Fred asked for it (he didn’t), and not because he even really gets what it is (he’s working on it). I’m doing it because this box, this brand, this movement, it exists because of him. And because of us.

Let me explain. Our marriage hasn’t been perfect. In fact, five years ago, I almost walked away from it. We were disconnected, overwhelmed, and just trying to survive the chaos of work, parenting, and our own past hurts.

I made choices I’m not proud of. We hurt each other. And still, somehow, we stayed.

Fred is a night-shift guy. I’m up before the sun. We pass each other in hallways and text more than we talk some weeks. We’ve gone through seasons of resentment, silence, therapy, and a slow rebuild .And that’s where Dinner With the Wife was born. From that rebuilding.

This box isn’t just about date night. It’s about coming back to your relationship, even if it looks different now than it did five, ten, or fifteen years ago. It’s for couples like us tired, messy, committed, and still trying. Fred may not light candles or write poems, but he shows up. He picks up dinner after his shift so I don’t have to cook. He fills my gas tank without telling me. He shows love the way he knows how. And even if he’s not the “subscription box” type, he’s the reason this one exists. Because we needed something. A reason to pause. A spark. A reminder. And I know we’re not the only ones.

So for Fred’s birthday, I want to celebrate the kind of love that looks like showing up in the hard seasons. I want to celebrate second chances, quiet gestures, and the couples who are still trying to get it right even after getting it wrong.

So I’m giving away a Dinner With the Wife box to one lucky couple who could use a little more connection. A little more laughter. A little more “us time” that doesn’t require a babysitter or a five-star reservation.

Here’s how to enter: https://dinner-wife-the-wife.kit.com/9c2db13a5b This is more than just a gift box. It’s handwritten love letters. Intention. Ease. A reminder that romance doesn’t have to be loud to be unforgettable.

And honestly, Fred probably won’t even read this blog post. But if he does, I hope he sees what I see, that even though we’re still figuring it out, I’m proud of us. I’m proud of the work we’ve done, the life we’ve built, and the fire we’re still tending.

Happy birthday, babey. Thank you for loving me through my mess. For growing with me, even when you didn’t know how. For helping me create something real.

And to everyone reading this, your relationship deserves that kind of attention, too.

This isn’t just a box. It’s your next favorite date night.

All of my love,

Wanda 🩷